You’ve probably heard this, or something like it, from jaded old crew members. (Or young ones who like to think they’re jaded.) And whatever it is they’re being negative about, odds are they’re right. But in the words of The Dude–
Outside of the context of discussion with a very good friend, “I’m just being honest” is up there with “I’m not a pessimist; I’m a realist.”
Don’t ever say it. And if you’re ever in a situation where that seems like a necessary defense for whatever you’re talking about, then you’re already in trouble.
Of course, sometimes you must point out something is wrong. It could be as minor as someone printing the sides wrong, or as major as a safety issue.
There’s basically two questions you should ask yourself before saying something negative, about anyone or anything on set–
- Is this a specific, discrete event?
- Can anything be done about it?
In other words, if this issue is a general, systemic problem, you’re just complaining. If you’re not going to be able to fix it, you’re just complaining.
We all need to vent; I get that. But work is not the place for it. Tell your friends, tell your mom, tell your cat. Anyone but your co-workers.